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  • Writer's pictureNatalya Permyakova

Feeling Like A Failure? Here Is What You Need To Know (and Do)

A person feeling like a failure, sitting alone on a park bench with a distressed expression, while people walk by in the background
"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts." – Winston Churchill

Have you ever felt like a complete failure?

Trust me, you're not alone. Do you feel stuck in life, as if everyone else is moving forward while you're standing still? It’s an isolating feeling. Let's talk about why you're feeling this way and how to overcome it.


"I Am Feeling Like a Failure"

Feeling like a failure is more common than you think.

Even famous and successful people have experienced it. Steve Jobs was once fired from Apple, the company he co-founded. J.K. Rowling was rejected by multiple publishers before "Harry Potter" became a global phenomenon.

The feeling of failure can come from unmet personal expectations, societal pressures, or even a single setback that feels insurmountable.


The Science Behind Feeling Like a Failure

  • Negativity Bias: Our brains naturally focus on negative experiences more than positive ones. This makes failures seem more significant.

  • Imposter Syndrome: Many high achievers feel like frauds, fearing they’ll be exposed as not competent enough.

  • Societal Expectations: Society sets high standards for success. Not meeting these can lead to feelings of inadequacy.

  • Comparison Culture: Social media fuels constant comparison, making others' successes seem more prominent than our own struggles.

  • Fear of Judgment: Worrying about others' opinions can amplify feelings of failure and prevent us from taking risks.

  • Perfectionism: Striving for perfection can set unrealistic standards, making it easier to feel like a failure when these are not met.


Overcome Failure: Tips To Find Direction In Life

1.Start a Passion Project – Dive into a project that genuinely excites you. Whether it’s writing a book, starting a blog, or launching a small business, a passion project can reignite your sense of purpose and achievement. Passion projects often lead to unexpected opportunities and can significantly shift your perspective.

2. Radical Sabbatical – Take an extended break from your routine. Travel to a new country, immerse yourself in a different culture, or volunteer abroad. This radical change can provide fresh insights and help you see your life from a new angle. The experiences and challenges of a sabbatical can be transformative, offering clarity on what truly matters to you.

A person feeling like a failure but ready for change, standing with a backpack on a scenic cliff, overlooking a vast landscape with a hopeful expression.

3. Life Audit – Conduct a thorough audit of your life. Break down all aspects, including career, relationships, health, and personal growth. Identify what’s working and what’s not. This audit can help you understand where you’re wasting energy and where you should focus more. Tools like the Wheel of Life can be incredibly helpful for this exercise.

4. Work with a Coach – Sometimes, an outside perspective is invaluable. A life coach can help you design a life that aligns with your true desires and strengths. They provide guidance, accountability, and tailored strategies to help you move forward. The right coach can make a huge difference in overcoming feelings of failure and finding direction.

A person feeling like a failure, receiving guidance in a cozy room, talking with a supportive life coach, both smiling

5. Experiential Learning – Engage in hands-on learning experiences. Enroll in workshops, attend conferences, or participate in hackathons. These activities not only expand your skills but also connect you with like-minded individuals. Experiential learning can break the monotony of traditional learning and provide practical, real-world insights.


Find Direction in Life with My Life Quest

Feeling like a failure doesn’t have to be a permanent state. My Life Quest is designed to guide you through these feelings and help you find your true direction. Our self-guided digital program offers a step-by-step framework to establish your life’s vision and achieve your goals. It's like having a personal coach at your fingertips, ready to help you navigate life’s challenges.

A person is sitting in a cafe enjoying completing a mission of My Life Quest



Remember, feeling like a failure is a temporary state. With the right tools and mindset, you can turn things around. Take small steps, embrace new experiences, and don’t be afraid to seek help. Your journey to self-discovery and fulfillment starts with a single step. Try My Life Quest for free today and begin your path to a more purposeful life.

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